It has, yet again been quite some time since we’ve written. I have toyed with whether this would be Casper’s post or mine. I think just to get thoughts out it will be straight from me. I want you to hear his voice, I want to hear it too, but again I just can’t get there today. I think it’s fair, and enough time has passed where we can comfortably talk about what has been happening in our lives.
I have to think back quite a ways so forgive me if the timeline doesn’t match up quite right, I’ll try and not leave too much out. The real craziness probably started about the time of Spring break. This year we planned to drive down to southern Florida to see my parents. (Last year, you may recall was our trip to Oklahoma.) I added the roof rack cross bars to the truck to accept a gear box, then had it tuned up for the road and was making all the final preparations. Lauri planned our stops and caretakers for the cats (AKA basement monsters). All of this while making sure the girls saw their Dad and step-mom as much as possible before leaving for a week. If anyone has 50/50 custody you know how challenging that can be. Add to that, their Dad being sick and an eighteen year old cat, which as we found out has a thyroid condition which requires daily medication within the week prior to our scheduled departure. These two “situations” left us with cause to evaluate the trip. Lauri and I had a conversation and I told her that I really felt like we needed to stay because at that point Lucy needed to be fed at least 3 times a day plus ensuring she ate the pill. I was not comfortable asking someone to make that commitment. If any of you know me personally, you know most can read my emotions easily. I can’t hide them, they come bursting out. I know this and so does Lauri so I don’t even try to hold back when I really feel something. The next morning we called my parents and told them that we sadly would not see them. They understood, of course. eally, how could my awesome come from nowhere?
We took a couple day trips, and even an overnight, thanks to wonderful friends checking in on the cats. I’m sure you read the posts, so I won’t go into details here. The rest of the week we tried to have the girls available to their biological Dad and Step-Mom. While we all wanted to take a trip, staying home turned out to be the best thing we could have done for the girls. It turned out that the very same week their Dad lost his battle with cancer. I’ve lost family members to old age, in shocking situations, and even my own grandmother to cancer. I have not lost a parent, and certainly not as a child to something as unforgiving as cancer. I can’t imagine what that’s like, so I do my best to be a positive role model and just be there, hoping that is enough. When I look back on that week now, I know I was being told to stay for a far greater purpose than keeping a kitty healthy; we’re glad we did.
As life moves away from tragic events, we took our hobby of browsing the country for fun real estate to earnestly considering why we might be doing that. We both felt that now is the perfect time for a change. We added criteria of bedrooms, bathrooms, yard space, school systems, and distance from family. Ideally we liked the idea of being half way from both of our parents, or parental groups as the case may be (Editor’s note: My (Lauri) parents are divorced and both remarried and I am adopted and am close to my birth mother and her husband as well). In our searching around the country and talking about what felt right for us, we settled on a home coming for Lauri and making the move to Oklahoma. This is really convenient for one side, and about the same trip to get to the my parents. Having the support of multiple family member for the girls was the final decision maker.
This decision to move has set us into overdrive. We have been spending our free time with projects large and small that make a well loved and well lived in condo a bit more attractive to a new resident. We are doing everything from patching the ignored drywall holes and painting to updating the bathrooms and putting in a brand new kitchen and appliances. We have been sorting our belongings between give away, throw away, sell, and keep. It really is amazing at the amount of stuff you acquire by being in one place for nearly ten years. There really is something to be said for rehoming items that haven’t been used in a year. Simplifying one’s life has been a difficult process, but I can say it is getting easier as I go.
We are excited about the changes and moving confidently in the direction of living the rest of our lives as a team. Since we’ve posted last we have celebrated our second anniversary as a couple and I am happy to say I have a fiancé; conveniently for me it is Lauri. I figured it would be way too confusing for me any other way. (See early statements of me not being able to hide emotions and you know that I’m joking, here.) It is said that when you ask for big changes and move toward them with an open heart you will get them in ways you may not imagine; this is true. We jumped in the proverbial river and are trying to ensure we point downstream; it’s a fun ride, with some swift moving water along the way, but the best ride of my life so far because I know I have asked for all the change we’re working though. As I write this now, I can’t believe it has been two years since I gave in to the universe and have been receiving gifts in so many strange ways, not the least of which has been SDP, Casper, CPs, and our wonderful readers!
**I (Lauri) wanted to share a photo of the GORGEOUS ring I received!!! Dan had been looking for the right time to propose for months. He and Casper had this custom made with the kind of stone I wanted. Morganite: “This crystal also attracts the abundance of love into one’s life and assists in maintaining that love as it continues to grow. It encourages loving thoughts and actions, consideration and responsibility, and being receptive to love from others. As a crystal of the heart, it may be used to attract one’s soul mate or in deepening a current relationship. It inspires joy and reverence for life, and increases the opportunities which allow one to experience the unconditional love of the Divine.”**